Mini meltdown

A huge wave of grief has knocked me sideways today. I think it's been knocking on my door for a while and I've been too scared to open the door. But the baby is asleep so I've decided to sit with it today and acknowledge it for what it is - really fucking hard. 

No words of wisdom on this post, folks. Just an extract from today's breakdown in my diary.

Peace and love x

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